I’m 25 and have been dating the same girl for 6 years. This had happened once every while but I never thought much of it because it wasn’t a regularly occuring problem. But about a month ago, I went soft in the middle of things, and since then, I just can’t get an erection. When we start to get around to things, I just can’t stop thinking about getting an erection, and I can’t focus on sex. I love my girlfriend and I’m attracted to her. I’m also confident in myself and in fairly good helth and shape. That isn’t the problem.

But about a month ago, she had to stop taking the pill and we resorted to condoms, which completely dimish sex. And I find that the act of putting on a condom is a complete interference. I don’t know if this is how it started, but at this point, it’s getting to be a serious issue. I plan on visitng the doctor, but I’ve been procrastinating because this is a tough thing for a 25-year-old male to accept. I’m really not sure what to do, and the thought of losing my relationship over this is a complete joke. So, for all you other guys out there who feel you’re too young for this issue, just remember–it could always be worse.

Lady of the Night: my girlfriend feels the same way you do. I can’t speak for your boyfriend, but I know that when I tell her it’s got nothing to do with her, I mean it.